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poem for a friend

15.04.09 | Joanne Dibble | 5 Comments

a very dear friend’s birthday was yesterday. he sent me this achingly beautiful poem
many years ago. now illness is gradually taking him away from us, and i felt a strong
need to find it and send it back to him now. for me, it creates the same overwhelming
sadness and sense of grieving now, as it did so long ago….

-In Blackwater Woods-

Look, the trees
are turning
their own bodies
into pillars

of light,
are giving off the rich
fragrance of cinnamon
and fulfillment,

the long tapers
of cattails
are bursting and floating away over
the blue shoulders

of the ponds,
and every pond,
no matter what its
name, is

nameless now.
Every year
everything
I have ever learned

in my lifetime
leads back to this: the fires
and the black rivers of loss
whose other side

is salvation,
whose meaning
none of us will ever know.
To live in this world

you must be able
to do three things:
to love what is mortal;
to hold it

against your bones knowing
your own life depends on it;
and, when the time comes to let it go,
to let it go.

i am sorry i dont know author’s name, but this is attributed to him or her… with deep gratitude.

God Bless, Ray…

vty, Joanne

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  1. Ilona says

    April 16, 2009 at 6:21 am

    That is a beautiful poem. It is by Mary Oliver,New and Selected Poems (google tells you everything)

  2. Ilona says

    April 16, 2009 at 6:23 am

    ..found this info for the curious….

    Mary Oliver was born in Cleveland, Ohio in 1935.

    As a young writer, Mary Oliver was influenced by Edna St. Vincent Millay and, in fact, as a teenager briefly lived in the home of the recently deceased Millay, helping to organize Millay’s papers.

    Mary Oliver attended college at Ohio State University, and later at Vassar College.

    Mary Oliver’s poetry is deeply aware of the natural world, particularly the birds and trees and ponds of her adopted state of Massachusetts.

    Her collection of poetry “American Primitive” won the Pulitzer Prize for Poetry in 1984.

  3. johanna_lea says

    April 16, 2009 at 3:18 pm

    you are the consummate researcher!
    some very co-incidental things i find in this info…we are all from ohio country. i am a huge fan of Edna St. Vincent Millay, just finished her enormous bio. she was bipolar, also a free-spirit-in a time when women were supposed to be writing grocery lists, not writing poetry!
    my french grandmother went to vassar,too and ran with the NY literary crowd back then.
    ANYONE who grows up with nature
    ends up falling in love…
    although many are unwilling to undertakr the work, everone
    stops to admire a beautiful
    landscape, or garden.
    funny how some things are somehow
    connected. this poem had always made me cry, both for its subject, and its essential beauty.
    vty j-lea

  4. johanna_lea says

    April 16, 2009 at 3:29 pm

    – emotion –

    teary eyes, blurry typos…
    fear for my dear one’s health
    my sole excuse.

  5. Ilona says

    April 16, 2009 at 7:08 pm

    In the garden I think we see the circle of life, but somehow we never get resigned to it. I am sure your loving thoughts and compassion are sources of healing for your friend.

    I pray today for you and him… for the different sorts of healing and comfort we all have need of. Love to you good friend… and all the more for seeing what a caring friend you are.

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